NFP Testimony: "Sex is like Chocolate Cake"
This is a guest blog post by Sofía Muñoz Abou-Jaoudé
“Sex is like chocolate cake,” said my dad, leaning back in his chair and ignoring my startled look. “If you eat chocolate cake every day, it becomes something commonplace and ordinary. But if on some days, you can’t eat chocolate cake, you value it all the more on the days you do get to eat it."
The Chocolate Cake Talk was my first introduction to NFP, and simplistic as the analogy may be, it really made an impression on me as a teenager. My parents’ example was also instrumental in showing me that NFP contributed to a healthy, loving marriage and deepened my desire for such a marriage.
When I finally met the amazing man who would become my husband, I was initially afraid of bringing up NFP to him. We had just started dating, and I was still processing the fact that this incredible human being wanted to be with me. It seemed too early, too risky to start talking about NFP, especially since I had already shared with him that I wanted to abstain from sex until marriage.
Yet one night, as we were driving to dinner, the topic somehow came up. I hedged and hawed until he turned to me and gently asked, “What are you trying to say?” I then explained with several “umms” and “you knows” that I wanted to practice NFP in marriage, that I did not want any barriers to come between us and that I wanted to love fully and freely.
I felt embarrassed because at this point I was practically telling a person I had known for all of a month that I wanted to marry him.
I’ll never forget the look on his face when I somehow concluded my awkward monologue, certain that this last requirement would prove too much, that the whole “NFP thing” would end our relationship. To my surprise, his eyes were filled with surprise, yes, but also admiration.
“Wow, that’s going to be hard,” he acknowledged, “but worth it.”
Relief flooded my body, and I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that this was the man I would marry.
Our life didn’t become easy or perfect after that conversation, but it did bind us together in a united desire to live out God’s plan for marriage, a plan that allows for the possibility of the unexpected, of miracles.
Our dating became more intentional, and about a year and half after that conversation, we were married. As we learned the more practical aspects of NFP, it allowed for beautiful conversations about the future, our dreams, and God’s dreams for us.
During the challenging times, our commitment to each other and to God’s plan brings us closer together and helps us navigate the difficulties. Practicing NFP is just one of the ways that we can grow closer through sacrifice and selfless love.
Thinking back to my first encounter with NFP at the dinner table with my dad, I’m filled with wonder and gratitude for God’s ability to transform a silly analogy into a commitment that has brought so much beauty to our marriage.
About Sofía Muñoz Abou-Jaoudé
Sofía works in education and is passionate about history, culture, and brewing the perfect cup of coffee. Born in Baltimore, MD, she grew up in various cities on the East Coast and now lives in Atlanta. She and her husband Dany are newlyweds and enjoying learning about NFP, the nuptial mystery, how to decipher the ClearBlue Fertility Monitor.
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